I would like to get some opinions on what people think as far as how much the father should be involved with his child when the mother stays home and the dad works all day.

I love being a stay at home mom, I cherish every minute with my daughter. But I feel that my boyfriend should be more involved with her when he gets home from work. I not only take care of her all day but I perform all the household duties also. It's not that I'm feeling overwhelmed but more that I feel like he's being a bystander in her life and that it's going to negatively affect her in the long run. Yes it would be nice to get a break and have some time to myself but more importantly I want them to bond and enjoy each other. The only time he spends time with her is when I ask him to. I've timed it, he spends about five minutes with her a day. He refuses to change diapers, rarely feeds her, and won't bathe or put her to bed. From day one I've felt like a single parent that happens to live with the father of my child. Maybe he's old fashioned and thinks taking care of the children is the womens work, but I know if I worked all day I couldn't wait to come home and be with my daughter. I'd want to feed her, change her, etc, to have that interaction with her. To him it's more of a chore, not a pleasure. I find it very disheartening and disappionting that he doesn't want to have more to do with her. Am I over reacting or is this normal for men? I'm a first time mom so maybe my expectations are too high. Please help, this is causing problems in our relationship. Thanks!